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I wrote a few weeks ago about finding a burner phone my husband was using. It was filled with Porn and there was contact with escorts. So in follow up, last night I started looking through his phone (the non burner, that he has had for years) First, he had images of a few different phones (Samsung, apple, etc) that he must have been trying to hook up or in fact did hook up. One of them was the one that I found. Anyway, on this phone I found several pictures he had taken of pictures of old girlfriends from over 25 years ago. He said his mother had the pictures. Now, this in a normal relationship would most likely not be a huge deal, but it was for me. Because he never mentioned these photos as I would have. And they were not pictures of him and the women together it was images of just them. He was in a few. And the dates coincided with the purchase of the burner phone. Now I am driving myself crazy wondering if he contacted one of them. What is notable is that about two years ago, he was in contact with an ex girlfriend. I found out because he was in the hospital and she was texting his phone. I checked the bill and he had been talking to her for a period of six months. He thinks he is blameless because it was "talking" and he never met up with her. But he always thinks he is blameless. He said that he received a random call from her from craigslist as he does business on there. Yet I restored text messages and saw him request the number from a mutual friend. I am so upset. This pattern of betrayal is soul crushing. And the worst part about it is he doesn't think he did anything because didn't meet up with anyone. Or said he didn't. And he thinks that I am overreacting about the photos. But it is the timing and not mentioning them. I could really use some support. I have definitely had it. Thank you for listening.

I for one don’t have any pictures of my old girlfriends on my phone. And I think my wife would be really upset if she fount some, rightly so. He is minimizing what he’s done and doing, and trying to make it a YOU issue. And you have no reason to think he’s not lying. I’m sorry Hurting2026, he’s treating you very poorly. But if you really have had it, then let that anger spur you to action. Get yourself out of this situation.

One of many surprises my WX had for me. He had a well endowed brunette for his phone wallpaper that was brought to my attention when another man noticed it and they shared a giggle (with me right there). I knew that he had at least one photo of me in his phone. So later, I decided to locate the photo of myself so I could delete it. I didn't want the photo of myself on his phone. But, I couldn't find it in all the sexy other women photos and porn video clips on his phone - hundreds, maybe thousands. I became so upset that I deleted ALL of it. I'm surprised now that I didn't take a hammer to it. He continues to tell me he never put any new other women photos on his phone. I don't believe anything he says or care what he does.