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So since my WS does not want to leave our home, we are having an in house separation. He is staying in the FROG which is also his office and I'm in the rest of the house. He stays out of my way most of the time which is great. But lately, he has gone off without telling me where he is going. Which I guess is his right since we are "separated." But all I can think is that is has gone back to her or found a new girl and he's seeing whoever that is. And then coming back to OUR home. It's just so supremely unfair at the moment. And I know life isn't fair (thanks Mom for the reminders) but it's just so hard to handle this. What should I do?

Have you consulted with a good family law attorney yet? If not, I'd strongly recommend doing so, now.

I haven’t yet because I was trying to wait until I can pick up legal benefits though my job but that won’t be till October.

I can tell you that right now, nobody but you knows you have separated. It would be your word against his if/when you wanted to establish a date of separation. October is a LONG time to go through this level of drama and uncertainty with no support. Even a legal aid society might be able to help you for a nominal fee.

Unfortunately, our debt is going to keep us living together for at least the foreseeable future. I don't know how I'm going to do this but I'm just trying to get through it one day at a time and be supportive of my girls. But it sucks so bad.

He is a just a roommate. I know that is SOOO HARD. But you are right - he doesn’t have to tell you where he is going. Try to distract yourself with loud music or going out or just enjoying your space with out him stinking it up.

IHS is notoriously hard. Seek out non-profits or even if a lawyer will give you a first visit for free to start the ball rolling.
In the meanwhile, do you best to consider him nothing but a roommate.

Hang in there.