After DD#2 in December, I filed for D, and D was finalized in early May. I learned last weekend that WXH has been in a serious new relationship for months, not with his most recent affair partner but with someone new. I'm stunned by the speed at which he moves and his total inability to be alone, and this is yet another example of his strong narcissist behaviors. Along with blame-shifting, believing the rules don't apply to him, denial, needing to have total control, etc.
So here's another piece of the story. I also learned that WXH and girlfriend recently spent the weekend at what used to be our summer home (which he got in the D). They walked into an ice cream shop where my daughter's close friend works. WXH made eye contact with the close friend behind the counter and immediately turned around and walked out with his girlfriend.
After getting past the disgust at the thought of the new girlfriend sleeping in what I still think of as my / our cottage and my / our bed, it occurred to me that the fact that WXH can't bear to face a 19-year-old in an ice cream shop is pathetic.
Despite the fact that he's living in his fantasy world of external validation (the girlfriend! the cottage! the new dog! all the other stuff he "won" in the divorce!), the fact that he couldn't face my daughter's friend tells me that deep down, he's ashamed and unwilling to confront any evidence of the destruction he's wrought. I should have mentioned that my daughter hasn't had any contact with her dad since DD in December...and he appears happy to move on in life without any relationship with her. 
I'm struggling to get my head around yet another incomprehensible action from WXH, so any perspective on this little story would be appreciated.
[This message edited by Arnold01 at 5:32 PM, Thursday, June 26th]
